You may have heard that it “takes a village” to raise a child, but you may be looking to add to your village even before the baby is born.
The delivery room can potentially be a busy place to give birth to a baby. Between medical staff and supportive friends and family, you may find yourself choosing who stays and who hears the story about it later.
Here’s what you should think about when you are deciding whom you want with you when you deliver your baby.
Friends and family
Some people are not suited for witnessing a medical event. Not only is giving birth deeply personal, but it is also very messy.
As you think about your friends and family, not merely based on whom you want to attend, but also who can appreciate the experience. If you have a loved one who collapses at the sight of blood, they might do better in the waiting room.
When you make your decision, talk to them about what to expect and ask them honestly if they are willing to be there with you. If your loved one is uncomfortable, they may not be able to support you in the way you are looking for.
Asking for outside help
Whether your friends and family are uncomfortable in a medical setting, or you live far away from them, there are times you want an extra person to support you in the delivery room.
Doulas and midwives are not exclusively for giving birth at home. Many doulas and midwives offer support for expectant mothers who would prefer to deliver in a hospital.
When you are looking for a doula or midwife, make sure you feel comfortable with them and the type of support they provide. Take time to get to know them and what they do in the days and weeks leading up to delivery.
Keep in mind that you may need to limit who can be in the delivery room with you. Talk to the staff at your hospital about what rules they have for the number of people you can have in your delivery room while you are in labor.